We hear a lot in the yoga and spiritual communities about masculine and feminine Polarity. But what does that mean? and how does that look like on the practical level? Answering these two questions is the aim of this article today.
In simple terms, polarity is the embodiment of the opposite. High and Low, Black and white, Writer and reader, Masculine and Feminine. In whatever state you are in, you always have an opposite state. Right now you are reading the words on this page and I am writing. You cannot write and read words at the same time. your brain needs to process things different for either tasks.
Yet at the same time you must remember that with every embodiment of the opposite there's an element of the opposite. Meaning that as a reader, you also have the ability to write and be the writer. And the writer also has the ability to read and be the reader. having the ability to be in one or the other does not negate your ability to be in either.
From the above understanding you can think of the masculine and feminine as states of being which you can be either one or the other. We each inherently have a preference of being in either one or the other depending on our birth. In that preference is where we find our inherit comfort in who we are and in our authenticity.
An example is that most men enjoy being in their masculine role, unless they have been conditioned against it (Note: sexual orientation and personal adornment does not grant or deny a masculine or feminine states of being). Where as most women would enjoy being in the feminine and thrive in that.
What are the masculine and feminine states of being? we can go into more detail about them in a different article, yet you'll see glimpses of what they can be as we answer our second question. How does polarity look like in a practical level in a daily life?
Now before we answer that question, bear in mind that there is always a slight difference between the embodiment of the masculine and the feminine in each person. Each one of us has a different way of expressing our authentic nature. And in that, there lays a difference in the compatibility of the relationship and in the expression of the polarity.
In daily life the masculine expresses itself through driven, direct force. whether that is in creating or leading or destroying. Examples are:
Chopping wood,
Fixing things around the house,
carving or sculpting,
leading a team,
problem solving
While the feminine expresses itself by receiving, recreating, and merging elements. Examples are:
Painting or creative work
dancing
Spontaneous activity
beauty
music
These examples are in no way exhaustive but just to give you an idea of what a masculine and a feminine expression may look like.
In the state of polarity (using a man/woman relationship example) The man takes on the role and position of the masculine in the relationship in a way that gives the woman a space for her to be in her feminine. Remember gentlemen, that a woman needs to feel safe, seen and heard for her to surrender and be in her feminine role. Thus in a space of polarity the man must at first and at minimum provide the above needs for a woman. To make her feel Safe, Seen and heard.
When the woman receives the above needs, then she can be feminine in the relationship and the man would continue to be the masculine. Thus creating a polarity dynamic in the relationship.
Examples of how that looks like in daily life:
A Woman sharing her feeling and emotions, and the man is listening attentively and acknowledging what she is sharing.
A Man doing some of the home house work to alleviate some of the tasks from his woman.
A Woman getting her man's undivided attention
A Man taking care of the shopping or groceries for the house, repairing or building with the things that need to be done
A Man initiating physical touch and care that does not need to be sexual in nature.
A Woman admiring her man's strength, character, and voicing your appreciation of his contributions.
These are just a few examples of what a polarity looks like in a relationship between the masculine and the feminine. Although these examples are not exhaustive in any way. Keep in mind that the examples and the polarity can only exists in a space of love, and cannot exist in an abusive or toxic dynamic.
If you are in an abusive relationship, whether you are being abused by your man or woman. Please do find help, friends and a way out from the cage you find yourself in.
On a different note, I personally train Men and Women living in London not only to improve and master their bodies, but to harness their emotions and mental powers. A side effect from this training is that it will improve the state of polarity in your relationship.
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Thank you once again for reading. If you have any questions, comments or suggestions, please feel free to write them in the comments below and I'll aim to give you an answer.
Until we meet again,
May your love lead you to The Way,
Solomon
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